Everyone would call me telling me who my ex was seeing what he was doing and where he was. And all the shit he was talking about me at the bars. Isn't it funny, a father, sitting on a bar stool, talking shit about the mother of his children? Who-the-hell do you think is sitting at home with those babies? Rocking them to sleep? Kissing them good night?! While your getting drunk. mmmmhmm I'm THAT bitch.
I thank God everyday I didn't stay with him.
I was lonely though. When my girls went to bed, I would read, clean, watch tv. I had went on one date, pathetic I know. I wanted to meet a man, but I hardly ever went out. It was so hard working and taking care of the girls alone, I had no free time..
We met about 4 years ago. We were set up by a friend at work. I was single, not really going out and looking but my co-worker brought a photo of Calvin to work and asked if she could set us up, um hell yes. He is hot. So if anything I'd be seen in public with this sexy man. I thought he was WAY too cute for me. I had always chose to date down, I'm not sure why but I did. I was always better looking than my partner. Until Calvin.
We had texted, he lived about a half hour away, I had only been to his "town" once in my life and I was sure Id never been able to find it again. He called a few times, but he was totally in the dark as to what I looked like. My friend assured him I was beautiful but that is all he had to go by.
One night after work, a girlfriend and I went for drinks and to visit my cousin she was a waitress. In the midst of us getting down in our gossip I got a text "I'm on my way" I thought he was texting the wrong person? I replied "where?" ...."to see you" hmmm, he had no idea where I was (except the city I was in) I immediately told my gf and cousin. My friend was sure I set this up so she could be my "wing man" but I was freaking out! Anxiety OVERLOAD. I hadn't even gone home after work to redo my makeup, hair, change clothes. WTF was he thinking! I told him where we were and 20 min later and 3 cocktails, he was waiting outside. I was terrified he wouldn't be attracted to me. He texted me again "come out" So my friend and I walked outside. He is such a hillbilly. He was drunk, on his motorcycle, in a tshirt and jeans. He walked up to the staircase and said 'she sure wasn't lying!' I was confused but said "hi, I'm Casie" We chatted a few minutes, I took my gf home, and met him at a bar.
We got a beer, I ran into a ton of friends, awkward so we decided to leave and go to my friends (the one who set us up) So I followed his drunk ass a half hour to her house, in the dark, no road lights, thinking great, hes leading me out here to rape and kill me. NOONE would find me..
We arrived at my friends, had some drinks talked awhile and decided to stay the night. I got the couch, he got the floor.
Well I'm sure you can guess what happened next. An AMAZING one night stand on my friends couch, ha ha, I finally told her two years later! I expected not to hear from him, he left early to golf the next day. He called that afternoon, I was so excited! So, we started "dating" which meant he had to drive to my place every night because of my daughters. I made him come at 8:30pm after they were in bed, I didn't know how to introduce him. Things went well, I fell fast, and hard. I love that man, he does everything to make my life easier.
One night he came to my apartment early, like 7:30. It was chaos. My girls had just had a bath and were running around streaking, squealing, laughing, giggling. He wasn't even standoffish. My girls instantly loved him too.
We had went to meet his parents one evening, they hadn't met the girls yet. They instantly loved them, they hugged them, kissed them, told them how much they loved them! it melted my heart. That day the girls called Calvin, "daddy Calvin" we froze, we didn't want to confuse them. Since that day he has been Daddy Calvin, until this past year. They have called him DADDY and their SD by his first name. Kids definitely know how to make sense of their world and the people involved.
Today, they hardly see the SD and his wife (mommy dearest) and we moved 45 min away by my in-laws. They are amazing people. They are so kind and accepting, I'm not sure what we would do without them. We have a beautiful farm house, our kids are healthy, happy and I don't deserve this life but I thank God everyday for it. And I thank my friend constantly for introducing me to the best man I have ever met, and the best Daddy in the world....
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The first night we met |